Can a marriage without sex survive?

Can a marriage without sex survive?

Sexless marriages, although rarely openly discussed, are more common than you might think. On Google, people search for 3 times more information about the phrase "Marriage without sex" than about the phrase "Unhappy marriage" and 8 times more than "Marriage without love".

What is a sexless marriage?

There is no exact definition, although some experts say that when a couple has sex less than 10 times a year then their marriage is considered "sexless". This group includes those who can have 5 years without sexual intercourse, and those who have sex once every two months.

But is it possible for these marriages to survive, to escape divorce?

Yes, it is possible for a marriage without sex to survive, but only under certain circumstances.

According to a 2015 Pew survey, 61% of married adults in the US say that satisfying sex is 'very important' for a happy marriage.

But not all those who are in a marriage without sex feel miserable and predisposed to divorce.


Both partners have low libido

Lack of sex may not be problematic for marriage when both partners share similar, low, levels of sexual desire.

A partner has a health problem that affects his or her sexual desire or performance

The couple values ​​more aspects of their life together than sex life

But for many couples, lack of sex can make it difficult to maintain a marriage

A sexless marriage only works if both partners are on the same side in terms of their desire levels and the role sex plays in their lives and relationships. Otherwise, a dead bedroom can lead to hurt feelings and growing dissatisfaction.

A marriage without sex is not so likely to survive long term when ...

The couple has libido discrepancies

Lack of sex is the result of a deeper relationship issue, for example infidelity

What can you do to improve?

First reflect on when you started to find the cause.

Talk to you both, it's one of the most important steps.

Find time for a 'date night'

Try to schedule dates

Talk to a sex therapist