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How to find out if your marriage lacks sex

How to find out if your marriage lacks sex

First of all, take a deep breath. If you managed to click this post, it means that most likely something is wrong. You need to know that you are not alone. There are many relationships and couples who suffer this situation.

The world in which you live is to blame. A world after isolation with a pandemic still on its feet. With so many victims left behind, with acquaintances, loved ones and relatives lost, with jobs lost, with family members met, with the office transferred home, or worse, you may have lost your job, so you have not how to feel in the mood.

What is a sexless marriage?

Relationship expert Sophie Mona Pagès explains that being in a marriage without sex means having little or no sexual activity with your partner. But that does not necessarily mean there is a problem. 'Sex is not essential for a marriage to work,' says Pagès.

The reality is that all relationships - especially marriages - are different and there is no 'normal amount' of sex to do. But because of the way 'happy marriages' are portrayed on TV, social media and movies, if your relationship does not look exactly like that, you may think you are doing something wrong.

When is a sexless marriage a problem?

If you and your partner are both completely happy in your sexless marriage, go ahead and stop reading this article. Reason to worry is when one of the partners feels hurt by not meeting sexual needs.
But if you find that you are not happy with your sex life, do not despair. There are ways to understand what is going on and possibly restore intimacy in your relationship.

Below you will find what can contribute to you or your partner in a low sexual desire:

Mental health issues: If your partner is struggling with depression, anxiety or other mental health issues, this may affect their libido or their ability to have sex.

Personal issues: Whether they are family or work issues, they affect intimacy.

Stresi: Ndonjëherë jeta është intensive. Dhe kur keni një milion gjëra në mendjen tuaj, seksi duhet të jetë i fundit.

Si mund ta shpëtoni një martesë pa seks?

Një gjë që mund të bëni është të përqendroheni në komunikim. Përcaktoni se çfarë do të thotë seksi për ju të dy, për të ndarë një kuptim të përbashkët të pikëpamjeve të njëri-tjetrit. Kthehuni pas për të kuptuar kur dhe pse filloi. A ka gjëra të pathëna? A ka turp? Si është një jetë e lumtur seksuale për secilin prej jush? Cila është pika e përbashkët? Bërja e këtyre pyetjeve mund t'ju ndihmojë të kuptoni më thellë çështjen, nëse ekziston një, ose t'ju ndihmojë të manovroni se si ta ktheni seksin në martesën tuaj.

Sometimes it is simply a matter of detachment. Maybe you should start masturbating slowly. However in this case, remember that reconnection should always start from emotions and then end in sex.

* Cosmopolitan article was adapted in Albanian by Tiranapost.al