The power of gratitude
I recently ran in the Detroit Marathon , and by doing so I raised money for the Detroit Community Cat Rescue . The day after the race, I wrote short letters thanking everyone who donated . money .
E dija që mamasë sime do t’i pëlqente si gjest, por mu duk paksa e çuditshme që po i shkruaja shokëve nga liga e basketbollit ku jam i angazhuar prej vitesh. Duke kërkuar donacione për miqtë e mirë të preferuar – kotelet – kisha zbuluar disa gjëra të reja tek vetja –ndaj shqetësohesha se mos falënderimet e shkruara me dorë do të ishin një tjetër shkelje e normave mashkullore.
Në fakt e kisha shumë gabim. Shprehja e mirënjohjes për miqtë dhe shokët e mi, dhe jo vetëm për dhurimet e tyre, por edhe për shoqërinë e tyre me mua, ishte diçka shumë e gjetur. Në fakt, studimet mbi mirënjohjen na tregojnë se të gjithë, ashtu si unë, e mbivlerësojnë vështirësinë e shprehjes së kësaj ndjenje, dhe nga ana tjetër e nënvlerësojnë befasinë dhe efektin pozitiv që do të sjellëshe to k others. Now I feel more connected to those guys than ever before.
As we approach the end of this year , a time when many people thank God and people around them for the good things in their lives, I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to write about gratitude.
Gratitude is the moment when we value another person who intentionally and altruistically gives us something of personal value . _ _ After the marathon, I am grateful to my friends and family , both for the visible benefit of the cash donations , but also for the invisible social support that their donations represented .
But gratitude is more than an act of courtesy , or a calculated strategy to receive gifts . Being grateful is associated with higher levels of life satisfaction, optimism, vitality, empathy , forgiveness and a positive attitude .
Gratitude broadens our perspective on life, prompting us to be more creative and reflective . Gratitude also reduces feelings of envy, negativity, depression and anxiety. Several studies have argued that gratitude is essential to our relationships with other people , and to the human experience as a whole.
One of the famous Christmas carols is basically the story of someone going from being ungrateful to being grateful. Charles Dickens was right when he wrote that gratitude can be learned , but most of us would choose not to be visited by ghosts all night.
Fortunately , psychologists have devised several ways to teach young people to be more grateful , and to encourage adults to express gratitude . These practices include gratitude journaling (another form of expressive writing), gratitude letters, starting gratitude conversations, or simply adopting a grateful mindset every day .
In one study, over 200 urban high school students used the GiveThx app , which provided users with a space for gratitude journaling and private thanks to other students . Compared to the control group, GiveThx users reported being more grateful , and had a more positive outlook on life and the world , less anxiety and more satisfaction with their friendships and life.
They also had higher scores on several tests of social -emotional learning, including emotion regulation, altruism and achievement motivation. Another study used text messages to encourage college students to be grateful.
Over the course of 7 weeks, students were sent weekly reminder messages to choose an attitude of gratitude, express gratitude to their peers or professors , and reflect on 3-5 blessings from the previous week.
Studentët që praktikuan mirënjohjen raportuan se ishin më të qetë, më pak të stresuar, më të fokusuar tek mësimet, më të motivuar dhe më rezistentë përballë sfidave akademike.
These studies show two important things about gratitude. First, students can benefit from practicing gratitude throughout the year, not just during a certain season. Second, technology is a great way to encourage students to thank others and share those feelings . In my work at Persistence Plus , we regularly encourage students to express gratitude to those who help them. / "Psychology Today"
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