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Don't make these mistakes if you want to communicate better

Të flasësh mirë, të dish se si të komunikosh padyshim gjithnjë e më e rëndësishme: për ta bërë këtë, rregulli i parë është të shmangim gabimet që e bëjnë komunikimin tonë joefektiv.

Don't make these mistakes if you want to communicate better

To communicate in the best way you have to be yourself

There are times when good communication, using the right words with others or with ourselves can fundamentally change the way we perceive or feel about ourselves. Therefore, it is important first of all to learn to observe our way of communication, to notice mistakes and to get in touch with the "right words" that have always been inside us, those that express our true being and that will they make us communicate what we want, precisely and directly.

Errors that must be eliminated to communicate better:

Recurring concepts: become talkative

The more a concept is repeated within the same speech, the more it loses effectiveness and bores the listener.

Use of "war horses": appear nostalgic and pedantic

Always focusing on the same topics or stories of common events makes us look boring and causes others to avoid us.

Speaking with examples is didactic and stale

Making a personal example of everything the other person says makes him feel childish and inhibits his expression.

Interruption is unbearable

Stopping others from speaking with constant interruptions, clarifications, objections is a sign of rudeness and aggression.

"Opening parentheses" creates distraction

The constant opening of random sentences rich in detail distracts the speech from the purpose.

Using multiple substrates introduces complexity

Jokes, short personal considerations, vague language make communication similar to personal ruminations.

Always making the "final joke" risks being pathetic

Always ending the conversation with a joke that is not very funny creates an awkward and uncomfortable effect.

Looking away is a sign of disinterest

It is one of the things that most hurts what the other person has to say, as well as signals a lack of respect for the interlocutor.

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