How to stay independent in a relationship
Being in love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Most of us like being in a relationship and spending time with our partners. But if you ever feel like you're losing your identity in a relationship, and you've closed yourself off with the idea that "in this world it's me and him", it's time to take some steps and value yourself more.
Here are some ways you can become independent while still in a relationship.
You are responsible for your feelings:
First, you need to stop basing your happiness on your partner's actions. Your feelings and emotions are your responsibility. No one can make you happy if you can't make yourself happy. Yes, you need reassurance and love from your partner, but at the end of the day, the only person who can make you feel anything is you.
No is a good word sometimes:
You have to learn to say no and accept it too. Thinking you can do whatever you want, while your partner has to do things your way, can lead to a toxic power balance in a relationship and make you more dependent on them. Sometimes if they say no, accept it and move on.
Understand what is important to you:
You have to accept that no two people are the same; you and your partner may have different priorities and values. You may be all about work, while they may want to focus on the relationship. So figure out what your priorities are and figure them out. It will lead to agreement, freedom, and compromise—things that are essential to a healthy relationship.
Say yes to a night out with the girls:
When we're in a relationship, our time usually revolves around our partner, and that's not good after a while. For your sanity and happiness, it's important to sometimes go out without your loved one and spend time with your company. It not only builds trust between the two partners, but also increases appreciation for each other.
This is the most important thing you should do for yourself. Knowing your worth and refusing to accept anything less than that will not only help you find healthier relationships, but it will also ensure that you are not dependent on anyone.