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What to do when your partner is no longer attracted to you?

What to do when your partner is no longer attracted to you?

In the early days of your romantic relationship, you may have felt magnetically attracted to your partner. You can't stay away from each other. Then there comes a point when things just don't feel the same anymore. Especially in long-term relationships, this is more common.

Therapists explain why a loss of attraction happens, what to do when it happens, and how to know if the relationship can be saved or not.

You are bored with each other.

Stability and security are important ingredients in a healthy long-term relationship, but as human beings, we tend to crave novelty. Feeling familiar with a partner can negatively affect our attraction to them.

You have unresolved grievances

Relationship conflicts—whether they're about money, cheating, sex, parenting decisions, family drama, or the unequal division of household responsibilities—can cause resentment if they're not handled fairly and respectfully.

You stop interacting as romantic partners.

It's all too easy for busy couples to slip into task manager mode and rarely try to ignite the romantic side of the relationship. Instead of sharing a kiss, they're focused on sharing their homework list.

What should you do if you no longer feel attracted?

If you've noticed that your feelings of attraction for your partner have faded, don't assume that the relationship is doomed. We asked the experts to reveal their best tips. First, ask yourself some questions to clearly understand when and why you started to feel less attracted to your partner.

Moali recommends starting with the following questions to help pinpoint the source of the problem and point you toward possible solutions:

Was it a gradual or sudden loss of traction?

What happened before you noticed the change?

How have you tried to deal with the problem so far and what was the result?

Be aware that the difference may have little to do with your partner.

Prioritize time as a couple, even when you're busy.

If you can't remember the last time you had a date night where you dressed up and went out to eat, dance, watch a movie, or just do something fun together, it's no wonder the spark has faded.

Try new things together.

If you decide to tell your partner that you are no longer attracted to you, do so sensitively and tactfully.

Make an appointment with a couples therapist